Do women lose themselves when in a committed relationship? I can agree with that to some extent. Within a marriage you compromise but with time that compromise may strain the relationship. I recently read an article about a woman who had been married for over 20 years then discovered that her husband was a Sugar Daddy. LIKE a real damn official Sugar damn DADDY!!! Registering on a website for monthly subscriptions and everything!!! For those who aren't familiar it where a man voluntarily sponsors a young woman in exchange for sex!
So I'm reading the article and the woman said that she found out because she stumbled on reoccurring charges after he husband said he was leaving her! The kicker in all of it was that she also found miscellaneous gifts that he bought for the girls and one of these gifts happen to be a $1500 Louis Vuitton bag while she got a damn lunch tote cooler! When she asked him about being a sugar daddy he admitted it and said that the girls made him feel appreciated. I about fell out!!! The fucking NERVE of this guy!!!!
Funny thing is though that she's not alone. There are plenty of couples in this same situation. It's called getting BORED in your relationship. On the radio this morning they were discussing the same thing when a young 22 yr. old girl said her 32 yr. old boyfriend said that he's bored and thinks about what he's missing out on. This all got me to thinking. All relationships that are long lasting will get to the point where things begin to feel routine. That's perfectly normal. However it's the mind that gets to playing tricks on people to make them feel that they're missing out when actually they're experiencing a great thing. Comfortability!!! Think about it... when you're constantly dating and get tired of going through the motions you say "I just want someone that I feel comfortable with and that gets me". Well there is really no further "getting you" when you've reached the level in your relationship where you're both comfortable in each others presence. After a while that zen feeling will become boring but it's up to the individuals in the relationship to perk things back up. Do things that are out of the norm together to create new memories together. You both have to make it a priority or it will ultimately lead one or both of you to look for newness elsewhere. That is why people get divorced. They're searching for newness but in their search they're going to try to seek out someone else to fit in their same routine. Which will ultimately lead right back to that same feeling. The shit's CRAZY but people are crazy!
Anyway.... here's the link to the article:
huffpost. It's a great a little read. Oh and back to my ladies. PLEASE don't forget about yourself for a man. Please don't stop working on your passions! Maintain an identity that is your own which includes getting stuff that you like and doing things that you enjoy. Even if you have to do some things alone. I'm at a age where I know a few women who have been dependent on a man and they all end up resentful and unhappy. Then they start to despise the man when you put yourself in the position by letting him control you. That too can start to fester into a problem and who needs that shit.
Lord knows I love me some Rihanna but I'm not fully blown away with her clothing line. Well let me correct that... MOST of the items from her recently released Fenty collaboration with LVMH definitely looks like Rihanna designed them. What I mean by that is that the collection mirrors some of her previously released fashion lines which means that it has an island flare to it and I'm not a huge fan. However everything isn't for everybody so for those who love it... ball out! There are a few bangers amongst the batch that I feel are worth buying but only when I see some sale prices. If nothing goes on sale then I'm good with the miss.
